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| Courses Schedule |
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| Introduction to Relationships Courses |
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| Relationships I - Relationships in General - or - This Darned Elusive Happiness |
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| Threshold to Excellence |
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| Relationships II - Relationship with the Self |
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| Relationships III - Investing Responsibly in a Permanent Relationship |
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| Relationships IV - The World of Little People |
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| Relationships V - The Challenges of Puberty - Teenage Camp 1 |
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| Relationships VI - Hunting for Power - Teenage Camp 2 |
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| Frontiers of the Self |
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| Power of the Male |
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| Mysteries of the Female |
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Elizabeth Schnugh
On Teaching and Relationships
On Teaching and Relationships
Théun Mares
An Introduction
An Introduction
Théun Mares - On Money,
Economics, and Politics
Economics, and Politics
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Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
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Our wishes are not just idle day-dreams. Our wishes are an expression of our innermost predilection - a predilection which it is perfectly possible to fulfill, provided we use our knowledge wisely.
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We make of our lives what we will.
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Life is not your social conditioning, and neither are you your behaviour.
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If you wish to change you must cast off your self-image.
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To relate to ourselves, to others, or to the world, we need to be aware. To relate implies understanding.
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Take responsibility for having this person in your life.
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Don't treat the other person in your life any differently than you would a stranger.
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Accept yourself for who and what you are.
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Always look for the positive; focus on the positive.
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Acknowledge gender according to its proper potential.
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Compress time.
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Believe in yourself and in others.
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Make allowances for the differences between males and females.
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Laugh! Life is fun!
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Be real. Make yourself and others real.
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The cornerstone of true love is intelligent co-operation.
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Ruthlessness and unconditional love are synonymous.
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Actions speak louder than words.
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All of life is a system of games. Some games just require more carefully defined rules than others.
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Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
---------------------------
Our wishes are not just idle day-dreams. Our wishes are an expression of our innermost predilection - a predilection which it is perfectly possible to fulfill, provided we use our knowledge wisely.
---------------------------
We make of our lives what we will.
---------------------------
Life is not your social conditioning, and neither are you your behaviour.
---------------------------
If you wish to change you must cast off your self-image.
---------------------------
To relate to ourselves, to others, or to the world, we need to be aware. To relate implies understanding.
---------------------------
Take responsibility for having this person in your life.
---------------------------
Don't treat the other person in your life any differently than you would a stranger.
---------------------------
Accept yourself for who and what you are.
---------------------------
Always look for the positive; focus on the positive.
---------------------------
Acknowledge gender according to its proper potential.
---------------------------
Compress time.
---------------------------
Believe in yourself and in others.
---------------------------
Make allowances for the differences between males and females.
---------------------------
Laugh! Life is fun!
---------------------------
Be real. Make yourself and others real.
---------------------------
The cornerstone of true love is intelligent co-operation.
---------------------------
Ruthlessness and unconditional love are synonymous.
---------------------------
Actions speak louder than words.
---------------------------
All of life is a system of games. Some games just require more carefully defined rules than others.
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Question :
I would like to ask for some guidance on the relationship I have with my children. As they now live with their mother ever since we became divorced I am finding it more and more difficult to relate to my children when they do come and stay with me. Somehow they don't even feel like my children, and yet I know that deep down inside I love them.
Answer :
Do you actually LIKE your children?
I know that somewhere deep down inside you DO love your children, or to be more precise, you FEEL that you ought to love them! But, right now, right here, do you even LIKE them, much less LOVE them?
I take this approach with you, my friend, for I can see that you feel guilty because you do not love your children like you feel you ought to. But loving our children is socially conditioned bullshit, for as with ANY relationship it takes TIME and a great DEAL of blood, sweat and tears to BUILD that relationship!
Children are INVASIVE STRANGERS that find their way into our lives in one way or another! Your children are NOT your children! Instead they are ancient beings, STRANGERS that have chosen YOU as their father! Do you get my point?
If so, then drop the socially conditioned crap, drop the sense of guilt, and above all, drop the ROMANTICISING, and take a good, long and HARD look at how you TRULY feel about your children! Do you even WANT a relationship with them? If so, why? I ask you this, because unless you can answer such fundamental questions, we do not even know WHERE to start addressing your relationship with your children.
Do you still love your ex-wife? No, clearly not, otherwise you would NEVER have gotten divorced! And so why should it be different between you and your kids? Or are you so arrogant as to believe that you fathered little angels with whom you had an INSTANT bond?
Am I being harsh? No! I don't think so! I am just being REAL! This is something I believe you do grasp quite well, even though you still swing violently between feeling highly pissed off AT your kids, and then almost immediately feeling terribly guilty for not being a good and loving parent!
Relevant Courses:
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Relationships IV - The World of Little People
Relationships I - Relationships in General - or - This Darned Elusive Happiness
Relationships V - The Challenges of Puberty - Teenage Camp 1
Relationships VI - Hunting for Power - Teenage Camp 2
I would like to ask for some guidance on the relationship I have with my children. As they now live with their mother ever since we became divorced I am finding it more and more difficult to relate to my children when they do come and stay with me. Somehow they don't even feel like my children, and yet I know that deep down inside I love them.
Answer :
Do you actually LIKE your children?
I know that somewhere deep down inside you DO love your children, or to be more precise, you FEEL that you ought to love them! But, right now, right here, do you even LIKE them, much less LOVE them?
I take this approach with you, my friend, for I can see that you feel guilty because you do not love your children like you feel you ought to. But loving our children is socially conditioned bullshit, for as with ANY relationship it takes TIME and a great DEAL of blood, sweat and tears to BUILD that relationship!
Children are INVASIVE STRANGERS that find their way into our lives in one way or another! Your children are NOT your children! Instead they are ancient beings, STRANGERS that have chosen YOU as their father! Do you get my point?
If so, then drop the socially conditioned crap, drop the sense of guilt, and above all, drop the ROMANTICISING, and take a good, long and HARD look at how you TRULY feel about your children! Do you even WANT a relationship with them? If so, why? I ask you this, because unless you can answer such fundamental questions, we do not even know WHERE to start addressing your relationship with your children.
Do you still love your ex-wife? No, clearly not, otherwise you would NEVER have gotten divorced! And so why should it be different between you and your kids? Or are you so arrogant as to believe that you fathered little angels with whom you had an INSTANT bond?
Am I being harsh? No! I don't think so! I am just being REAL! This is something I believe you do grasp quite well, even though you still swing violently between feeling highly pissed off AT your kids, and then almost immediately feeling terribly guilty for not being a good and loving parent!
Relevant Courses:
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Relationships IV - The World of Little People
Relationships I - Relationships in General - or - This Darned Elusive Happiness
Relationships V - The Challenges of Puberty - Teenage Camp 1
Relationships VI - Hunting for Power - Teenage Camp 2