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Elizabeth Schnugh
On Teaching and Relationships
On Teaching and Relationships
Théun Mares
An Introduction
An Introduction
Théun Mares - On Money,
Economics, and Politics
Economics, and Politics
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Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
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Our wishes are not just idle day-dreams. Our wishes are an expression of our innermost predilection - a predilection which it is perfectly possible to fulfill, provided we use our knowledge wisely.
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We make of our lives what we will.
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Life is not your social conditioning, and neither are you your behaviour.
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If you wish to change you must cast off your self-image.
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To relate to ourselves, to others, or to the world, we need to be aware. To relate implies understanding.
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Take responsibility for having this person in your life.
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Don't treat the other person in your life any differently than you would a stranger.
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Accept yourself for who and what you are.
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Always look for the positive; focus on the positive.
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Acknowledge gender according to its proper potential.
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Compress time.
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Believe in yourself and in others.
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Make allowances for the differences between males and females.
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Laugh! Life is fun!
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Be real. Make yourself and others real.
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The cornerstone of true love is intelligent co-operation.
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Ruthlessness and unconditional love are synonymous.
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Actions speak louder than words.
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All of life is a system of games. Some games just require more carefully defined rules than others.
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Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
---------------------------
Our wishes are not just idle day-dreams. Our wishes are an expression of our innermost predilection - a predilection which it is perfectly possible to fulfill, provided we use our knowledge wisely.
---------------------------
We make of our lives what we will.
---------------------------
Life is not your social conditioning, and neither are you your behaviour.
---------------------------
If you wish to change you must cast off your self-image.
---------------------------
To relate to ourselves, to others, or to the world, we need to be aware. To relate implies understanding.
---------------------------
Take responsibility for having this person in your life.
---------------------------
Don't treat the other person in your life any differently than you would a stranger.
---------------------------
Accept yourself for who and what you are.
---------------------------
Always look for the positive; focus on the positive.
---------------------------
Acknowledge gender according to its proper potential.
---------------------------
Compress time.
---------------------------
Believe in yourself and in others.
---------------------------
Make allowances for the differences between males and females.
---------------------------
Laugh! Life is fun!
---------------------------
Be real. Make yourself and others real.
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The cornerstone of true love is intelligent co-operation.
---------------------------
Ruthlessness and unconditional love are synonymous.
---------------------------
Actions speak louder than words.
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All of life is a system of games. Some games just require more carefully defined rules than others.
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Chapter Six
Term Four:
Give Yourself Time
Term Four:
Give Yourself Time
Time is the essence of impeccability.
The fourth condition of Captain Life is that "You must cast your watch into the sea". This means that you must give yourself time, for the simple reason that it takes time to break the habits of a lifetime. Yet, if you are ever going to achieve happiness sooner rather than later, you cannot also afford to waste time, in the sense of indulging in your old habits and behaviour. Let us see what this actually means in practice.
Generally speaking we are all willing to give others time, but when it comes to ourselves, we really give ourselves very little. For example, if you are a single person and you have someone coming over to dinner, you will cook, set the table nicely, complete with flowers and candles. But how often, if ever, will you do this for yourself? However, if you do not love yourself, then why should anyone else love you?
If you are ever going to have a meaningful relationship, you must start with yourself. Only by learning to show yourself respect will you have real respect for someone else.
So, stop trying to impress others with your dinner and pretty table - instead show them that you live like that all the time, in which case they will respect you for it and will want to be around you. Exactly the same is true of giving yourself time in which to change. If you do this, you will also not expect your mirrors to change every time you snap your fingers! Life is a process and although we make decisions in the moment that are truly life-changing, implementing those decisions in day-to-day life takes time, just as it takes time for a tree to grow after it has been planted. Relationships are in every respect exactly the same as planting trees. They take time to grow and, above all, they need respect, care and nurturing.