Being a Tough Cookie Costs

What we call “thinking” is in fact the workings of the rational mind; what we should really be calling computing or…

Because attention is an act of will we have commands like, “Pay attention”. The most powerful technique for developing…

And this is the essence of the reality that lies beyond the face value of the above myth: Life is not and could never be a…

Therefore, instead of becoming irritated, I should have been grateful and co-operative!

When I walk or sit, or whatever I do, I always sense my body and specifically what is/what feels ALIVE in my body – this is…

So how can I bring back the fun into the process of my learning and not see fun as just entertainment? How can I be…

I still see so much responsibility dumped onto men about how they should be and how they need to change...

When I look around in the world today, it is with a deep sense of anguish that I still hear echoing in my ears the...

It entails my relying on my own inner warmth and it unfolds like a “pregnant pause stage” until I give birth to the new!

More than a year ago I made a decision to challenge myself to face my fear of exposing my vulnerable side with people.

Once I acknowledged the REALITY of my situation, I was then able to confront this fear within myself – and then to do…

Being intelligent is a way of relating when each party can discriminate between what it NEEDS and what it should AVOID.

I grew up with a father who just loved to pretend he was weak! His favourite past time was to isolate himself...

And my departing point on this journey is a simple truth that I already have all I need with which to start!!

A convenient boy-girl-friend relationship cannot be left open-ended forever.

And if I’m awake enough, I may register the moment I’m about to succumb to inertia – and reverse it!

I did not panic, and decided to open up myself to my friends and to share how I really felt in that moment – without judging…

ISM Newsletter April 2024

I am using the Rule "FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE" for some years already and I really have seen that it works and also how it…

Friendship is a relationship, and believe me, by FAR the most DIFFICULT of all relationships to build, for it does not have

As parents, no matter what we do, we seem automatically to fall into a trap of feeling guilty about not doing a good enough…

Instead of looking at WHY I could "not afford" to travel to Greece, I started to look for HOW I could afford it!

Too many people live in worlds removed from those closest to them due to poor communication skills.

Look how the little oyster transmutes the grain of sand that is irritating and transforms it in the end into a pearl.

Théun's firm belief was that the world did not need even more fighting and violence to meet the fighting that is……

In all of this, working with and managing our anger was the theme of the challenge – and both of us were using our anger as…

Last week I had a lot of things to do!

I have a good feeling that I am able to laugh at myself under stressful situations and somehow all this experience brings…

What did I do to get from expending untold energy to what is for me now an effortless pleasure?

We take action – a man cannot be impotent; we can find the harmony through conflict, confrontation.

Quite simply, everything that happens in me or around me is first of all because I perceive it.

Instead I chose to trust the process, to believe, even though at times I couldn't really figure out why I needed another…

I no longer dread the arrival of my monthly menstruation, but rather welcome it as MY opportunity to start afresh.

Learning to navigate your relationships provides opportunities to reconnect to the wonder and uniqueness of who you truly…

Some that might say that given that this is the unknown or undefined it could mean just about anything we choose it to be!…

The mere fact of evolution and it’s astonishing complexity points to a purpose and intelligence capable of making choices at…

The two streams of evolution of the life forms, and what I consider the Self, are vastly different – but I found the…

Being a trained litigator and a practicing lawyer, I come across the concept of words and their trap on a daily basis.

It is impossible to win the respect of others if you do not have SELF-RESPECT!

Start giving yourself and those around you credit for what you and they are doing right.

In this course I endeavour to show adults what it is to be a child.

How to approach separation in a mature way.

I did not submit to the conflict by externalising it, but held the tension and patiently waited while working with the…

What has happened to turn men into powerless asexual softies that are at the mercy of everyone and everything?!

I am amazed to what lengths I go to maintain a self-image that "I know!" when in fact I KNOW I have no clue!

Fear can drive us forward to become bigger and better, wiser and more tolerant, more awake and therefore more responsive.

Is sex wrong? How to approach it responsibly.

You either CONFRONT him, or you choose to do nothing and let him go to pot completely.

The differences between suppressing and stepping over an emotion highlighted.

Will this partnership really work? How can two people actually run the business? Will I end up doing all the work?

My natural curiosity and inquisitiveness in learning all about life is my constant drive.

If the two people do not tango together, there is no way for their marriage to work.

Inside each and every one of us is the instinct for survival, and therefore also the intuitive recognition of the need to…

At the same time as being firm, we also need to be warm and gentle. It is a delicate balance that needs daily care.

The better things seemed to be, the more emotionally evasive I became!! Why? Because it just had to be "too good to be…